This last Friday, as a part of a “clean-up” effort at work, I inventoried lesson plans, primary resources and videos developed for the teaching resources website that I coordinate for the academic library where I work. In addition to the primary site, we also had posted the best videos on You Tube, including an interview of my husband about his archaeological research. His video received a fair number of hits for such an esoteric subject, but it had only been “liked” and chosen as a “favorite” by one person – two weeks ago. Can you guess who? I didn’t need to guess, I have been the site administrator for a year, so I looked. Yep, it was the Other Woman. Not only this, but five days ago, she created her own public You Tube channel with 2 videos – “Charlie Bit My Finger” and the video of my husband.
My emotions have been all over the place. The image of her watching a 4 minute video of J over and over, while he talks about his work made me both sad and sick at my stomach. Mostly, and as silly as it sounds, I was outraged – this is actually a part of MY work. The affair infringed enough on my personal life – it should not be a part of my WORK life as well. I realized later that I was also feeling powerless. The affair has been over for 1 1/2 years, and we have worked through it, but it just won’t go away. She intruded several weeks ago on a long time friendship, and now she is intruding on my work life. How long are things going to keep popping up and slapping me in the face? And am I crazy for even caring?